A lot of importance is attached to what to some may seem like a casual date.
So, like with any relationship, it’s important to be clear about your feelings if it turns out you’re not interested after all.
Christa: I actually approached someone on the train recently and he was totally ok with it but yeah it was kind of up to me to make a move.
Chiara: Um, let’s say in another field I had to make the first step.
Rebecca: I think because of the language and cultural barrier often conversations can be quite superficial – this or that recommendation of what to do in Japan, or do you like this Japanese food etc.
So it’s hard to get into a more deep conversation and to get to know each other.
But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.
I invited this guy to my house and I think it was pretty clear what I wanted to happen, and at a certain point I started to kiss him and he said ‘No. ’ Anthony: He’s like ‘えええ。。。you didn’t want to study Japanese…?
’ Rebecca: A similar thing happened with my friend.
I had heard that Japanese guys tend to be intimidated by foreign women.
When I first came, I felt no guys found me attractive since they never looked my way.