If you don’t want to follow the obviously stupid rule of “if she’s too beautiful to be a girl she must be a ladyboy” check out this article for some easy ways to figure out the difference between a Thai girl and ladyboy. So if you want to ask her in Thai if she’s a ladyboy, you would say: “kun bpen kàtoey mǎi” (คุณเป็นกะเทยมั้ย).
As always, adding the particle kráp (ครับ) at the end of the sentence would make your question more polite.
I wrote back to this letter-writer and asked: “Just so I really get the whole situation, did you really think was allowed? After working for the company for two years on-site at a client office, I was informed that the client had canceled the contract, so I would need to do another function, which would require driving all over town instead of being based in an office.
Or were you hoping you could do it and pay it back before it was noticed? My manager said point-blank that if I did not get a car within the week, there was nothing he could do for me.
The orginal plan was to use the money for a deposit on a car, and once the car was paid off, I would then have the car as an asset, which I could use as security on a loan, which I could use to pay off the card.
All was going to plan, but the car got written off due to the engine totally breaking down after a month, so I then had to get another deposit on a second car.
I truly thought that all would be ok as long as I did whatever it takes to pay the balance in full each month, and it seems to have held true so far.
But at the same time, I am aware that the company policy states no personal expenses.
If she answers “tam lɛ́ɛo” (ทำแล้ว) it means she has done the surgery (literally: do already) and if she goes “yang mâi dâai tam” (ยังไม่ได้ทำ) it means she hasn’t (literally: yet not done).I am scared to bring it up with my manager because it might mean I will lose my job once they realize what’s been happening, and if I lose my job I will no longer be able to contribute the ,000 each month toward paying the balance off.Some people even have suggested I might be up for serious legal problems, and I just feel so stressed out every single day about the situation.Third car deposit, and four years later I am feeling trapped in this cycle where I am getting about 0 in Pay Pal fees every month.I am starting to get unwell from the constant stress and thought that HR might see it as theft and I could be sent to jail, lose my job, and lose my reputation and ablity to get another job.