And that’s something the majority of fathers just don’t do, the study shows.
remembers the conversation she had with her two sons following one of their regular visits with herex-husband.
But a team of researchers at Penn State University has found that divorce impacts different family relationships in different ways.
The closeness between fathers and teens is harmed the most in a divorce. Alan Booth, a professor of sociology and human development, co-authored the study.
When the family disintegrates, achild's sense of self is threatened, even if he maintains strong ties to both parents.
Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.
But when she referred to their father as someone who was dating, the children were quick to insist that she was wrong."Daddy told us he won't date until we're in college," they declared.
“No matter their ages, explain (to your children) why you’re dating and that no one will ever replace the other parent,” says Dr.
Terri Orbuch, professor at Oakland University, author and family therapist.
That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.
It is an argument for honest, direct dialogue with kids about new relationships: Why Mom or Dad wants one, what Mom or Dad will doif a new relationship becomes serious, and how Mom or Dad's relationship with the child will be affected. had been divorced for six years when she announced to her children that she was thinking ofstarting to date again."They fell on the floor laughing," she recalls.